In your life, you'll make note of a lot of people.  Ones with whom you    shared something special, ones who will always mean something.  There's the one you first kissed, the one you first loved, the one you lost your    virginity to, the one you put on a pedestal, the one you're with... and the one that got away.                                                                              

Who is the one that got away?  I guess it's that person, with who           everything was great, everything was perfect, but the timing was just    wrong.  There was no fault in the person; there was no flaw in the         chemistry, but the cards just didn't fall the right way, I suppose.        

I believe in the fact that ending up with someone, finding a longtime     

partner that is, does not lie merely in the other person.  I can actually  

argue that an equal part, or maybe even the greater part, has to do with the matter of timing.  It has to do with you being ready to settle           down and commit to someone in a way that goes beyond the little niceties of giddy romance.                                                                              

How often have you gone through it without even realizing it? When       you're not ready to commit in that mature manner, it doesn't matter who you're with, it just doesn't work.  Small problems become big;               inconsequential,                                                                                  

become deal breakers simply because you're not ready and it shows.      It's not that you and the person you're with are no good; it just that     it's not yet right, and little things become the flashpoint of that fact.   

Then one day you're ready. You really are.  And when this happens        you'll be ready to settle down with someone.  He or she may not be the   most perfect.                                                                                     

They might not be the brightest star of romance to ever have burned in your life, but it'll work because you're ready. It will work because it's the right time and you'll make it work. And it'll make sense, it really      will.                                                                                                  

So that day comes when you're finally making sense of things, and you    find yourself to be a different person.  Things are different, your        approach is different, and you finally understand who you are and what  you want.                                                                                           

And you've become ready because the time has truly arrived.               

And mind you, there's no telling when this day will come.  Hopefully       you're single but you could be in a long-term relationship, you could be  married with three kids. It doesn't matter.  All you know is that you've changed, and for some reason, the one that got away is the first person   you think about.                                                                                 

You'll think about them because you'll wonder, "What if they were here today?"  You'll wonder, "What if we were together now, with me as I am and not as I was?"  That's what the one that got away is, the biggest      "What if?" you'll have in your life.                                                     

If you're married, you'll just have to accept the fact that the one that   got away, got away.  Believe me, no matter how fairy tale you think your marriage is, this can happen to the best of us.  But hopefully you're       mature enough to realize that you're already with the one you're with    and this is just another test of your commitment.  One which will just     strengthen your marriage when you get past it.  Sure, you'll think about him/her every so often, but it's alright.  It's never nice to live with a    "might have been," but it happens.                                                       

Maybe the one that got away is the one who's already married.  In which case it's the same thing.  You just have to accept and know that your       memories of that person will probably bring a nice little smile to your    lips in the future when you're old and gray and reminiscing.                  

But if neither of that is the case, then it's different.  What do you do if it's not yet too late? Simple...find him, find her.  Because the very         existence of a "one that got away" means that you'll always wonder what if you got that one.                                                                             

Ask him out to coffee; ask her out to a movie, it doesn't matter if          you've dropped in from out of nowhere. You'd be surprised, you just      might be "the one that got away" as well for the person who is your "the one that got away."                                                                             

You might drop in from out of nowhere and it won't make a difference.  

If the timing is finally right, it'll all just fall into place somehow and      you know. I'm thinking, it would be a great feeling in the end, to be able to say to someone, "Hey you, you're the one that ALMOST got away."